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#65 Crabs in a Bucket

Recently I read a quote that intrigued me, “Never tell anyone your plans.”

It piqued my curiosity, and I began contemplating this singular notion.

Never tell anyone your plans. Sculpt yourself in solitude. Perfect yourself in secret. Improve yourself in privacy. Don’t let anyone know what you’re doing until it’s done. Even then, don’t tell them. Let them discover it on their own. Let them figure it out. Keep them guessing how you did it. Then keep moving forward.

Goals are for people who are concerned with winning once. Habits are for those who are obsessed with winning repeatedly. Even more, habits are developed by those who aren’t concerned about winning at all. Their objective is much more sublime. They are fixated on perfection of character.

Winning is an event. Habits are a pursuit.

If you tell people you are setting a goal, they may try to dissuade you from its acquisition. They may not appreciate that you are making improvements in your life they haven’t the intestinal fortitude to instigate for themselves. They may recognize you only as you have been, instead of the who that you are becoming. They may also see your goal a one-time achievement. Something unobtainable, because they are uncertain they have what it takes to achieve their own goals.

I’ve said many times that failing is an integral part of success. Failing is a bruise, not a tattoo. Some people may see your little failures along your path as the big failure that will derail you entirely. They may even look forward to seeing you fail.

There is a concept called Crabs in a Bucket. It essentially boils down to “If I can’t have it, you can’t either.” If you put several crabs in a bucket, they will scamper about, trying to find an exit. Eventually, one will gain purchase of the edge with a single claw. While devising his escape, his brother crabs will pull him back down into the bucket. This will happen repeatedly as each crab attempts freedom. None realize improvement of their collective situation.

By telling others your goals, you hook your claw upon the rim of your current situation. They will pull you down and escape will elude you.

“How are you going to afford to do this?”

“Where are you going to find the time/money/resources?”

“You don’t have the skills to attempt this.”

“Are you going to have a business partner who has more knowledge/experience than you?”

They may think they are encouraging you, but these little pecks erode foundations.

Don’t focus on the goals. Focus on the habits necessary to achieve personal greatness. Achieving a goal is like floating on a raft. The goal may be to get off an island. The wind may blow you off course. The waves may guide you along an unintended route, but you’ll still be somewhere other than where you started.

The greatest satisfaction is when someone exclaims, “I had no idea you could …. “

and you reply, “I didn’t know I couldn’t.”

Develop your habits. They will allow you to achieve any goal and attain any end.

Leave the crabs to themselves.


Joe “Weeg” Weigant is a Holistic Health Practitioner, Metaphysician, and Empowerment Coach. He combines bodywork, energy work, and coaching to relieve anxiety and depression and balance the nervous system. Weeg coaches his clients to drop the white flag of victimhood and pick up the banner of empowerment, inspiring them to stop riding in life’s trunk and take the wheel of their lives.

Weeg sells herbal products by Nature’s Sunshine, Pure Herbs Ltd. and Juice Plus. He teaches Karate and Tai Chi, Reiki Certification, as well as seminars and workshops in metaphysical and spiritual matters. Weeg is available for sessions at Tri State Holistic Wellness by appointment only.

Contact by text 812.568.5356, or Facebook Messenger to set an appointment.

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