Be kind to yourself, you’re really all you’ve got.
Don’t let a small setback derail your entire path to success. Whatever endeavor to which you’re committed, remember that nothing improves in a straight line. Our lives improve like a stock market graph, there are ups and downs. But over time, there is always improvement. Some days you are motivated and feel like taking on the world, while other days you feel like hiding under the covers and putting up no effort at all. This is okay.
Everything is in flux. Nothing is static. Nature operates in cycles.
Taoism and Stoicism exhort us to accept change or accept defeat.
Greek Philosopher Heraclitus, father of Stoicism, famously stated, “Everything changes and nothing stands still.”
His student, the famous Marcus Aurelius and the last of the great Roman Emperors, said, “Observe that everything is a result of change, and get used to thinking there is nothing Nature loves so well as to change existing forms and to make new ones like them.”
Our environment changes, our friends change, and even we change. You are not the same person you were last year, last month, or even a few minutes ago.
Not one of us wants to be remembered for the mistakes we made ten years ago. It doesn’t mean we didn’t act foolishly; it just means we aren’t likely to ever do that again. And we don’t want to be treated as if we can perform the same way today.
Interestingly, we continue to punish ourselves for what we have done in our pasts. We hold onto that guilt and shame and anger, as if that will somehow make amends. Similarly, we hold on to our memories of what others have done as well, in the hopes that we are somehow punishing them for their apparent wrongdoings.
If we aren’t that same person who did those things long ago, and the people around us aren’t the same as when they performed their action, why aren’t we letting go of it all.
None of us are the same person, in the same environment, doing the same things, acting the same way.
Be forgiving. We are all evolving, growing, learning. If you deserve a fair shake, don’t others?
Go easy on yourself and go easy on others.
To change, we must change.
“I wanted to change the world. But I have found that the only thing one can be sure of changing is oneself.” Aldous Huxley
Oddly enough, if one is willing to change himself, he will find that his world changes as well. But change is difficult. Change takes effort and time. If you want to lose weight, you must change your eating and exercise habits, or at least create them. If you want to be a writer or an artist, you must change your habits to be like a writer or an artist.
Miles Davis said, “It’s not about standing still and becoming safe. If anybody wants to keep creating, they have to be about change.”
Change doesn’t occur in a straight line. It’s not easy. There are ups and downs, highs and lows, hards and easys. (yeah, I made those words up)
So go easy on yourself while it happens. And go easy on others while they figure theirs out for themselves.
Joe “Weeg” Weigant is a Holistic Health Practitioner, Metaphysician, and Empowerment Coach. He combined bodywork, energy work, sound therapy, and coaching to relieve anxiety and depression. A balanced nervous and energy system increases health in the physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual bodies. Joe encourages his clients to drop the white flag of victimhood and pick up the banner of empowerment. He inspires people to stop riding in life’s trunk and start sitting in the driver’s seat of destiny.
Weeg sells herbal products by Nature’s Sunshine and Pure Herbs Ltd. and is a Representative for Juice Plus. Weeg teaches Karate and Tai Chi, Reiki Certification, as well as seminars and workshops in metaphysical and spiritual matters. Weeg is available for sessions at Tri State Holistic Wellness by appointment only.
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